This Friday’s lunch was one of our top five luncheons yet. Thank you Staci and Roza for coming down!!
Some people handle break-ups and end of a relationship better than others. The difference lies in the difference in their personalities. Those who take responsibility for a relationship’s failure and connect it to permanent qualities they possess have a harder time bouncing back. On the other hand, people who view breakups as incidental rather than indications of their flaws are better able to deal with break-ups. The key to overcoming a breakup is to recognize that it does not mean that one has negative attributes but that the relationship did not work and that one has the power to change the circumstances in the future.
Some considerations that affect a payor’s income as discussed in the Giglio v. Giglio decision are:
1) whether the payor is intentionally underemployed;
2) whether non-salary amounts that the payor receives under a contract be included as income;
3) bonuses and commissions paid through third party payments that should be included in payor’s income; and,
4) personal expenses that the payor has expensed through work be included as income.
When dating a single father, keep the following in mind:
1. His child comes first and things will not go as planned.
2. Your relationship may start as a secret as he wants to make sure things are going well before Introducing you to his children.
3. His ex is here to stay and it’s important to respect that she’s the mother of his child.
4. He’s ready for a serious commitment. He knows what he wants and where he wants to be.
5. Be independent. When he’s spending alone time with his child, you should be out with friends or enjoying some me time.
Rule 25(19) of the Family Law Rules provides that a motion may be brought to change a court order which:
(a) was obtained by fraud;
(b) contains a mistake;
(c) needs to be changed to deal with a matter that was before the court but that it did not decide;
(d) was made without notice; or
(e) was made with notice but the notice was inadequate or the party was unable to be present
With temperatures hovering around negative double digits, here is a link with 20 fun indoor games to play with children:
The Honourable Mr. Justice Lemon in Driscoll v. Driscoll, 2009 CanLII 66373 (ON SC), laid down the law pertaining to interim spousal support awards. The following principles are considered by the courts:
1. On applications for interim support the applicant’s needs and the respondent’s ability to pay assume greater significance;
2. An interim support order should be sufficient to allow the applicant to continue living at the same standard of living enjoyed prior to separation if the payor’s ability to pay warrants it;
3. On interim support applications the court does not embark on an in-depth analysis of the parties’ circumstances which is better left to trial. The court achieves rough justice at best;
4. The courts should not unduly emphasize any one of the statutory considerations above others;
5. On interim applications the need to achieve economic self-sufficiency is often of less significance;
6. Interim support should be ordered within the range suggested by the Spousal Support Advisory Guidelines unless exceptional circumstances indicate otherwise;
7. Interim support should only be ordered where it can be said a prima facie case for entitlement has been made out;
8. Where there is a need to resolve contested issues of fact, especially those connected with a threshold issue, such as entitlement, it becomes less advisable to order interim support.
The following are sure signs of an emotionally abusive relationship:
1. Insults: the partner humiliates the other in private and in public.
2. Control: the partner controls every aspect of the other’s life making them lose independence and freedom.
3. Belittling and Demoralising: The partner belittles accomplishments and dashes the other’s hopes and dreams.
4. Punishment/Retribution: The partner punishes the other for inadvertent mistakes.
5. Manipulation: The partner tries to deceive and dominate the other.
6. Isolation: The partner attempts to isolate from the other from circle of friends and family.
In the recent Alajajian v. Alajajian (2016 ONSC 177) decision, the court made an award for an advance payment of equalization, and payment for the operating costs of the parties’ matrimonial home. For a discussion on these issues, please read the full case found in the link below: